fra hans bog "Getting the good girls" - ka godt lide "stretch zone"
Anyway many of you will have approach anxiety at the
beginning. Approach anxiety arises every time you
unconsciously put the evolutionary value of the girl above
To deal with approach anxiety you can think along the lines of
these 3 stages:
- Comfort zone: what you feel comfortable doing.
- Stretch zone: what puts "little bit of pressure" on your
inner state and does not have you into panic.
- Panic zone: all what makes you pee in your pants if you
simply think of doing it.
Now the best way to learn is to stay in your comfort zone in
the pick-up venue and start doing something "little bit more
difficult" which puts you into the stretch zone but does not
get you straight into the panic zone.
For example if entering a pick-up venue like a bookstore or a
food store does not cause you any stress then you can start
from that and then try to get into stretch.
If entering a woman's personal space causes you stress then
just walk around in the pick-up venue.
Don't stare at her.
When you feel comfortable walking in the venue then get little
bit more into the "stretch zone" and go little bit closer to
her personal space.
When you feel that are comfortable with that say "Hi" to her
and by doing that you get into the stretch zone even more.
The right way for learning is getting into the stretch zone
without getting into the panic zone and increasing the stretch
only a little bit every time.
Getting into the panic zone would have you to give up and get
bad feelings about the whole pick-up thing.
Getting slowly into the stretch zone will have you learn and
get used to new skills.
When you will notice that you can a little bit increase your
stretching and do new things it will feel very, very good.
Then you will feel very good about moving forward. It is
important that you feel good when doing pick-up!
All what you do should be framed in a positive way in your
This is also called self-hypnosis.
If you use negations in your thoughts and statement you will
If you think: "I cannot approach" you insert a negative
thought into your mind and this will cause lot of anxiety.
If you think: "Every day I learn something new about pick-up"
or: "Every day I learn new useful skills" then you are using a
positive frame and are not getting anxiety.
To maintain your state you need to take away all the negative
statements from your mind and frame them positively.
Think in terms of:
"I am on my way in learning approaches"
"I am willing to talk to girls"
"I love giving girls a chance to open up to me"
All these statements and thoughts contain positive
affirmations and keep up the right state in your mind. Your
thoughts influence your inner state very much.
Think of your mind as a box with a limited space inside: if
you have negative thoughts they will fill the box and there
will be no space left for pick-up and seduction.
Hunting is something which is successful when you think less.
Reduce the thinking at the minimum necessary, stay alert and
in contact with the surroundings.
Keep only a few, selected thoughts in the mind while doing
Remember: that "box" in your brain cannot contain thoughts
about your relationship with your former girlfriend or maybe
thoughts about the political situation of your country and be
at the same time able to pick-up.
There is not enough space in the "box" for all of those.