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Procrastination -"Your life is ending while you do nothing?"

Indlæg: lør 6. maj 2017 10:51
af Maggiez
Everyone procrastinates a bit it's almost impossible not to have down times. Even when I was living my life with pick up, university, girlfriend and gym.. I still feel I could have spend my time better.
We do things that are not important for our success, maybe even things we don't like after all. While at the same time we are heading further and further away from our success, because we don't do or keep doing what makes us successful.
Of course talent matters but what matters most is the hardwork you put in to reach your goals and make your dreams come true.
A few years ago I was really chasing those dreams.. but I couldn't live up to all what I wanted to do.. This made me feel bad and after a few more try's I basically gave up for almost 2 years.. where I didn't really do too much in my life.
Of course I feel I have wasted a lot of time being sick and feeling bad etc.. but no matter what if I wanna achieve my goals and reach my dreams. I have to get back even tho it may be hard at first.
Right now im not looking my best gained 50 kg's over the last 2 years.. but im still the same inside.. maybe even a better version of myself.
This complete downfall I had I take now as an experience.. a experience I never want to feel or try on my body.. it's even something I don't wish will happen for my worst enemy.
But however I could have came out of these bad habits a lot earlier if I didn't procrastinate a lot on the way.
What could have been done today could be done tomorrow or maybe never..
I reached a point where nothing really mattered anymore, because I felt that I had lost...
However now im back and just wanted to share my bad experience with procrastination.. so people maybe can start getting things done to reach those dreams.. instead of wasting my life like I was for some time..
However I experienced so much in my life before this so I can't really be unhappy.. but still if this didn't happen I could have been another place today..
-Maggiez

Re: Procrastination -"Your life is ending while you do nothi

Indlæg: tirs 9. maj 2017 15:46
af chrisjv
It called a dream for a reason. You have to wakeup!

Re: Procrastination -"Your life is ending while you do nothi

Indlæg: søn 14. maj 2017 23:44
af Trigger
Sounds like you had a rough time, and I'm sorry about that. I'm happy to hear that you decided to do something about it from now on and want your story to be an inspiration for others :-)

There's a part of your post where I began thinking about self-esteem/-efficacy and self fulfilling prophecies. Google it or study it via material like Branden, 6 pillars of self-esteem and Bandura, self-efficacy: the excercise of control.

"A few years ago I was really chasing those dreams.. but I couldn't live up to all what I wanted to do.. This made me feel bad and after a few more try's I basically gave up for almost 2 years.. where I didn't really do too much in my life."


There's a lot of material about how to stop procrastinating on youtube. I personally like and recommend watching:

TedX-video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WD440CY2Vs0&t=30s

Ratalyst:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2zswdWwLG3Q

An important point to take away from the Ratalyst-video is THAT PROCRASTINATION ITSELF IS A HABBIT! Like with breaking any other habbit you need to: recognise when you're doing it, why you're doing it and then take action. It needs determination and conscious persistence.

Re: Procrastination -"Your life is ending while you do nothi

Indlæg: man 15. maj 2017 08:52
af vUlpeS
Jeg går nok lige lovlig tæt på nu, men det er i en god hensigt. Håber sgu ikke, du tager mig det ilde op, at jeg bare er helt direkte; det er det nemmeste, synes jeg.

Jeg har egentlig tænkt på at spørge nogle enkelte udvalgte af jer i et stykke tid: Hvad er ideen bag at føre en så overmåde påtaget identitet? Jeg kender dig ikke, udover nogle indlæg og et par videoer, men det lugter langt væk af, at du forsøger (forsøgte?) at være super positiv og energisk konstant.

Sådan lidt a la at du kunne skrive en FR om en Winner Burger, du havde fået på en tankstation, og så var det bare det vildeste, du nogensinde havde prøvet i dit liv. "Hvad hypes kan, hypes bør" - Nej. Det står ikke noget sted at læse i biblen, at man skal hype som gjaldt det livet.

Vær sur, hvis det er dét, den står på. Vær træt, vær helt chill, vær dansk, vær morgengrim, kort sagt; vær dig selv sådan som du er i nuet, og vær ærlig overfor dig selv. Hav det sådan som du har det. Der er kun een, du skal imponere og være bedste ven med, og det er dig selv.

Re: Procrastination -"Your life is ending while you do nothi

Indlæg: man 15. maj 2017 15:13
af Chacruna
Hey Maggiez - Sounds like you went through a rough time emotionally and have come to some tough realisations!!

I think what your dealing with is what Camus would describe as the absurdity of our existence (basically the fact that we as humans strive for meaning and purpose in a universe where there is none) - but I could be wrong ofcourse...
It is something I have had to deal with A LOT myself - I used to think that my purpose was to be with a lot of beautiful women. And I had to realise that I was wrong about that. That no matter what I tell myself my purpose in life is, I would ultimately be lying to myself. Because there is no purpose. And that is just fine.
That does not mean I don't have preferences. For instance "lucidity" is something I cherish highly these days. But I don't tend to judge very much, neither myself nor others - For this reason I don't think "procrastination" is a very useful concept.
If I procrastinate less than someone else, maybe I just feel a higher need for accomplishment than that other person. Maybe that other person simply doesn't feel that need and is contend with however he is doing things, going through his life. That doesn't make me better or worse than that person in any way. Just different.