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Boy versus man

Indlægaf Kami » man 3. nov 2014 20:22

If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect that you will attract only boys. However, if you are a woman (independent, ambitious, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a man. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.

1. A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.

2. A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life) or another purpose or passion. A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.

3. A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.

4. A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.

5. A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.

6. A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.

7. A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.

8. A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.

9. A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.

10. A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too banged up.


Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:

11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.

*To clarify, when I’m referring to “games” I mean mind games.


Kilde: http://justmytype.ca/11-differences-bet ... -vs-a-man/
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Re: Boy versus man

Indlægaf Kami » man 3. nov 2014 20:30

Jeg er meget enig i mange af punkterne - men det sagt, er det også meget sort/hvidt. Jeg tror, at alle mænd stadig har lidt dreng i sig eller kan finde "sin indre dreng" frem fra tid til anden; præcis ligesom kvinder kan være selvstændige og selvsikre, og stadig blive ramt af prinsessesyndom eller lignende.

Jeg kan i hvert fald mærke på mig selv, som kvinde i slut-20'erne, at hvor jeg tidligere vurderede en potentiel partner efter hvem han var/er i nuet, så vurderer jeg nu efter, hvor han er på vej hen. Både hvad han giver udtryk for, men også hvad han reelt foretager sig.

Eks. har jeg tidligere sagt nej tak til en date med en mand, der allerede inden kandidaten var helt i hus havde opstartet eget firma med nogen succes, og der var ingen grund til at antage at han ikke med tiden ville opbygge noget vildt fedt ELLER lande sig et solidt job, fordi han havde bevist sine erhvervsevner.
Why? Jeg ønsker en mand, der kan tage halvdelen af barslen, halvdelen af barns sygedage, 3 ugers sammenhængende ferie hvor telefonen i teorien kunne være slukket uden problemer og som er hjemme senest til aftensmadstid, og hvor timerne efter ungerne er puttet kan bruges på voksentid (hygge, sex) og ikke at arbejde hjemmefra eller lige ordne noget til næste dag...
Og ja, selvom fyren var fantastisk på mange områder og selv sagde, at han ønskede sig familie og at være deltagende i denne familie, så var det på ingen måde dét, han arbejdede hen imod i praksis, snarere tværtimod. Uanset om han fortsatte eget firma eller blev ansat et sted, havde han valgt en gren af erhvervet som kræver megen dedikation og som er kendt for at indeholde arbejdsnarkomaner...
Det er efterhånden et års tid siden, og for tiden whiner han over at have så travlt med sit (succesfulde) firma, at han ikke har tid til hverken vennerne eller at date. Så det lader til, at min første fornemmelse var korrekt.


Er det noget, de andre kvinder på forummet overvejer - hvis vi et øjeblik ikke tager det citerede alt for pålydende, for det ER jo bare noget "smart i en fart"-internet bullshit, hvor man må sortere kraftigt i pointerne, for at stå tilbage med noget brugbart.
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